In order to find inclusion, we have to get honest about the myths that surround it. Myths about inclusion are everywhere and often create belief systems that limit us more than help. These myths are not true and block us from believing we can find or deserve to feel a sense of belonging. Let’s take a look at three of the most common myths about inclusion.
Inclusion is Conditional
Have you ever asked yourself the question: “When am I going to feel included?” Is your answer filled with a set of conditions or circumstances that have to be in place BEFORE you can feel included? For example, you may believe that, “ I will feel included when I find the right relationship or person to marry. I will feel included when I achieve a certain level of affluence or gain the perfect physical appearance.” Do you feel there is a prescribed set of circumstances that have to fall into place before you can feel included? This myth gives control of how we feel to circumstances that are out of our control and may never be perfect.
Inclusion Is Dependents On Others:
Last week we talked about how inclusion is often confused with “fitting in.” Do you have to wait for the approval or permission of others to feel included? Are you a minority that is waiting for the majority to include you before YOU can feel included? This myth tragically leads you to believe that the power to feel included rests with everyone but YOU.
Inclusion Will Happen Someday:
Do you feel too busy and overwhelmed to even think about inclusion? Do you feel you have to wait until you hit retirement or take your next vacation to rejuvenate and find the time? Maybe you feel disengaged at work or in a relationship that no longer gives you meaning or purpose. The myth here is that you have to delay feeling included until “someday” when you have more time or it's the right time.
Take a few minutes to write down the limiting beliefs or myths that you have about inclusion. Yours may be similar to the three mentioned above.
After writing down your myths, transform them into new statements that are true for inclusion. The truth should be the opposite of the myths you have written. Every time one of your limiting beliefs about inclusion surfaces in your mind, replace it with your new found truth and possibility. The first place to start is to stop believing the myths and begin to transform the way you think about inclusion!
Share below some of the myths you have encountered and how you have rewritten them into truths you can now start to live by.
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